The Power Of Making Decisions

It’s time to make a big decision and you just spent way too much time mulling over a million options and calculating all of the possible pros and cons, but you haven’t made up your mind. In fact, you may feel more confused then when you started.

It’s an awful feeling isn’t it?  

“Option A is awesome, but then again so is option B.” 
“I don’t know what to do!"
“What if I make the wrong decision?”

Why do we torture ourselves for hours, days and sometimes even months worrying about making the right decision? Why do we spend so much time conducting copious amounts of research, polling our family and friends, and constantly second guessing ourselves?

This swirling that we let our brains do, this is where were get stuck. In the land of indecision. In this space of worry and fear.

What we are really doing is causing ourselves a whole heap of undue stress and anxiety.

Making a decision does not have to be this difficult and if you think about it we already make hundreds of decisions every single day.  

“Should I have the bagel or a piece of toast for breakfast?"
“Should I walk to the gym or drive?”
“Should I send an email to that colleague who has been annoying me for the past week or is it best to have a conversation in person?”

All of the decisions that we make over the course of a day may seem minor and insignificant, but in reality they can be quite complex. That bagel that you had for breakfast had way more calories than that piece of toast, so now you might gain weight from the extra calories you ingested, and later you might find that someone left smaller clothes in your closet. 

Little decisions add up to big decisions. 

Now, before you start feeling anxious and hide under your bed covers know this:

You CAN learn how to make decisions efficiently and quickly. All it takes is some conscious thought in the moment.

So how do you do that? 

  1. When it comes time for you to make a decision, remember that you are in control. You can ask for advice from outsiders, but remember, your decisions are based on your own thoughts, values, and experiences. Someone else’s decision may not be the best for you. 

  2. Step into the fear of not knowing the outcome. If you stay committed and the decision is the right one, the Universe (or God, or what have you) will begin to move things into action.

  3. Learn from your mistakes. Sometimes we will make the wrong decision and that is COMPLETELY okay. Outside of the world not ending, what else did you learn from your experience?

  4. Stay true to your path, but be flexible. Allow for the change to happen as it’s meant to. Be patient, but also be ready for any unexpected hurdles. 

  5. Examine how you feel. You know that feeling that you get? The one that feels like the world has been lifted off of your shoulders? Yeah, that feeling! Relaxed, calm, ready to move forward? It’s a powerful feeling, isn’t it? That’s the feeling you are looking for.

So as you go through your day, practice these steps. Be conscious of each and every decision you make and how it makes you feel. Then course correct as needed. What happened? What did you learn?

“Know that it’s your decisions, not your conditions, that determine your destiny.”
Tony Robbins